As for emailing me honor thy father and mother Scriptures...do you have a point? I honor all 3 of the people that raised me/gave me life. I respect the fact that 2 of those 3 people raised me when they didn't have to but chose the option to despite it all. I respect that the 3rd person has had at lit a little bit of a part in my life plus him helping in the giving me life part. I respect that 2 of the 3 were really great parents to me and despite the amount of crap that I put them through growing up they were still by my side...1 is even willing to still be even though he has no strings attached to have to be. I hate what he did too but I refuse to continue to punish/blame him for something I myself did to my own marriage (1st one).
Honor is not about doing/saying what you want to see/hear. It is about an unspoken love and respect for the people that raised you and I do. Throughout my blurbs I have still said that I love you and I respect how great of a mom you were to me. It isn't about having to agree with whatever you do or want.
For another thing, I am not angry with anyone anymore. I have forgiven all that I needed to forgive. Forgiving isn't blaming someone for everything bad that happens in your life. It doesn't work that way. True forgiveness gives you the ability to let go, no blame, no hard feelings, and wishing them well.
Scottie should get the house...it should be in his name since he is the one actually buying it. Not that he is going to need it when he leaves for university next year. He had better go too or I know if he doesn't that it is because of you. He deserves better than that. I want to see him succeed for him. I want to see him get out of this hole. My point was that he shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to have a life of his own rather than taking care of and supporting his mom. He is 20...since when does being 20 mean supporting your parents? You said yourself that had it not been that he is paying the bills you would have booted him out already.
I found a question and response thing on something similar that I want to post about honor:
This is a question sent in by wondering on the “Ask Aaron Anything” link:
The bible says that we are to honor our father and mother, but I was wondering, What does honoring in tale, because we are dealing with Parents that continuously choose not honor our union as husband and wife. How do you stand up to Parents who think that they should still be in control of your life, or should be an active role in your union with your spouse, and think that their opinions, and their place is more valuable then your spouses. What do you do when you have brought these issues forward and they point blank will not change or are willing to admit to them. There has to be a point of separation, but how do you do that with honor and respect. With out hurting people you deeply love.
My Answer:
(JUST A NOTE: THIS ANSWER DOES NOT APPLY TO TEENAGERS OR CHILDREN WHO ARE LIVING AT HOME WITH MOM AND DAD)
Ephesians 6:2 – “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise) The biblical definition for honor – show respect, give recognition, often implying action to show that honor. The question is, is there a way to not listen to your parents and stand up to your parents without disrespecting them? FOR SURE!!! If they are your parents you need to be the one to respectfully put them in their place. If they are followers of Jesus you can appeal to them on that level, if they are not you are going to have to be a little more creative. Now let me give you a few thoughts. You asked two questions here… (1) What does it mean to honor? (2) How can I not hurt them?
(1) To honor them means to respect their position and what they did for you. To recognize the sacrifice they made and how much they love you and did for you. Now honoring them does not mean worship them or obey them. You are now in a covenant where you are one flesh with your husband and that must be protected. Your relationship has changed but can still be respectful.
(2) You will have to hurt them. Not in a mean and disrespectful way but you will have to hurt them and set some boundaries. Do not make your husband do it because then they will think that he is trying to ruin your relationship with them. You be the one to sit down (not in the middle of a fight but in a time of peace) and tell them what you see and what is going to happen. Be firm and confident, make sure you affirm how much you love them and respect them, and tell them that you are not going to allow it anymore.
That is all for now.
just like to add an Amen.
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